Introduction
So, you’re in the Two-Week Wait (TWW). First of all—big hugs, because this part of the fertility journey? It’s rough. One moment, you’re feeling super positive and imagining cute pregnancy announcement ideas, and the next, you’re googling “does sneezing mean I’m pregnant?” for the third time today.
If you’ve been trying to conceive (TTC) for a while—whether naturally, through IUI, or IVF—you already know the TWW can be an emotional rollercoaster. Every tiny symptom feels like a clue (Was that implantation cramping? Why do my boobs hurt? Am I imagining this?). And let’s be real—staying calm and “just not thinking about it” is basically impossible.
But listen, you don’t have to do this alone. This guide is here to help you survive the wait without losing your sanity—with real talk, practical tips, and ways to stay distracted until it’s finally time to test.
Take a deep breath. We got this
Understanding the Emotional Impact of the Two-Week Wait
Okay, let’s be real—the two-week wait (TWW) is basically a mind game that no one prepared us for. You’ve done everything you possibly can this cycle. You tracked your ovulation, timed everything just right (or had your IUI/IVF transfer), and now? Now, you just have to wait.
And let’s be honest—that’s the hardest part.
The Emotional Rollercoaster
One minute, you’re super hopeful, convinced this is finally your month. The next, you’re in a deep Google spiral reading about “early pregnancy symptoms” for the hundredth time. It’s totally normal to feel:
- Hopeful: “This could be it!”
- Anxious: “What if it’s not?”
- Obsessive: “Was that a cramp? A pregnancy cramp? Let me check my notes from last cycle.”
- Exhausted: “I just want to know already.”
- Nervous to test: “Do I even want to see the result?”
This back-and-forth? It’s SO normal. The TWW puts your emotions through the wringer because there’s so much waiting and uncertainty.

How to Stay Grounded During the Two-Week Wait
The two-week wait is tough, and there’s no way around that. But instead of counting the days and analyzing every symptom, let’s focus on ways to support yourself, feel more at ease, and stay emotionally balanced during this time.
1. Set a Google Limit (Seriously, Step Away From the Forums)
We’ve all been there. One quick search for “two-week wait symptoms” turns into a deep dive into old fertility forums, reading about someone’s experience from a decade ago. But here’s the reality—Google doesn’t have your answer.
- The TWW symptoms are almost identical to PMS
- Every person’s body reacts differently to early pregnancy
- Searching “Am I pregnant?” won’t make time go faster
Instead of falling into a research spiral, try setting a time limit on fertility searches so you can stay informed without overwhelming yourself.
Plum Tip: When the urge to Google hits, chat with Lina instead. She’s built to answer fertility questions in a way that is actually helpful, without leading you into an internet rabbit hole.
2. Find Ways to Support Yourself Emotionally
This is not about distracting yourself—it’s about finding ways to feel good and supported during this time. Whether that means taking intentional time for self-care, leaning on friends, or connecting with people who understand, your well-being matters.
- Spend time with people who make you feel at ease
- Have a self-care day—whatever that looks like for you
- Come into Plum and talk with other women who actually get it
- Do things that make you feel connected—whether that’s journaling, movement, or spending time in nature
The TWW doesn’t have to feel isolating. Sometimes, just talking to someone who understands can take the weight off your shoulders.
3. Support Your Body & Hormones During the TWW
Your body is doing a lot right now—whether this is your cycle or not. The hormone shifts during the luteal phase (the second half of your cycle) can impact mood, energy, and how you feel day to day.
- Focus on progesterone-supporting foods like healthy fats and leafy greens
- Get gentle movement—walking, stretching, or yoga can help with circulation
- Stay hydrated and prioritize sleep to keep stress hormones balanced
- Avoid anything that makes you feel on edge (like overanalyzing symptoms)
This isn’t about treating yourself like you’re already pregnant—it’s about supporting your body in a way that feels good, no matter what happens this cycle.
4. Journal Your Feelings Instead of Bottling Them Up
There’s a lot going on emotionally right now. Some days you might feel hopeful, and others might feel heavy. Instead of letting it all build up, try writing things down.
- Journal Prompts for the TWW:
- What’s one thing I can do today that feels good?
- What would I tell a friend going through this?
- How can I take care of myself, no matter the outcome?
Not into journaling? Start a conversation inside Plum instead. Talking through your thoughts with people who get it can make all the difference.
5. Have a Game Plan for Test Day
Waiting two weeks just to see one line instead of two? That can be hard. That’s why it helps to prepare emotionally for both possible outcomes.
- Decide ahead of time when you’ll test (early testing can lead to false negatives)
- Have support lined up, whether it’s a friend, your partner, or our community
- Remember: One cycle does not define your entire journey
If you need support on test day, Plum is here for you. Whether it’s a positive test or time for another plan, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
You Got This, and Plum Has You
The two-week wait is one of the hardest parts of the fertility journey, but you are not in this alone. Plum is here as a space to talk, share, and connect with people who understand.
- Join the Plum Community to meet women on the same path
- Chat with Lina when you need guidance or reassurance
- Take care of yourself, because your well-being matters—no matter the outcome
This wait won’t last forever, even if it feels like it right now. We’re here for you every step of the way.
Self-Care Tips for the Two-Week Wait That You Haven’t Heard a Million Times
By now, you’ve probably seen every self-care list telling you to light a candle, take a bath, and relax. But when you’re in the two-week wait (TWW), sometimes those surface-level tips just don’t cut it.
Real self-care is about finding ways to feel grounded, supported, and connected—especially when your emotions are all over the place. So here are some less obvious self-care ideas that actually help during the TWW.

1. “Write a Letter to Future You”
This one’s powerful. Sit down, grab a notebook (or open your notes app), and write a letter to your future self.
- If this cycle is a yes—what would you want to remember about this moment?
- If this cycle is a no—what would you say to comfort yourself?
- What is something you want to remind yourself, no matter the outcome?
When test day comes, you can read it back and see how much love and compassion you gave yourself in this moment.
2. Watch a Show That’s Completely Unexpected
Not a show about pregnancy, motherhood, or relationships. Not even something you’d normally watch. Try something completely random—a documentary on deep-sea creatures, a show about glassblowing, or an old sitcom you’ve never seen before.
Something that’s just light, weird, and totally different from anything related to fertility. It helps break the mental loop of overanalyzing symptoms and timelines.
3. Go Somewhere You’ve Never Been (Even Just a Coffee Shop)
The TWW can make every day feel the same, and that makes time drag even more. So mix it up.
- Find a new spot—a café, a bookstore, a walking trail, a flower shop.
- Change up your morning routine—make a new drink, journal outside, listen to a podcast.
- Even driving a different route can shift your mind into a fresh space.
A tiny new experience can remind you that life is still moving, even when time feels frozen.
4. Take a Break from Tracking Every Symptom—Do This Instead
Instead of obsessively logging symptoms (because let’s be honest, the symptoms of PMS and early pregnancy are the same), try a positivity tracker instead.
- Each day, write down:
- One thing that made you smile
- Something that felt good physically
- A moment where you felt strong
By shifting focus from waiting to living, the TWW doesn’t feel like time wasted.
5. Make a Playlist for Your Current Mood
Not a calm fertility playlist. Not something curated to manifest a pregnancy. Just a soundtrack for exactly how you feel today.
- Angry? Find songs that match that energy.
- Anxious? Pick something upbeat and fast.
- Hopeful? Choose music that lifts you up.
Music is a powerful way to release emotions without forcing yourself to “think positive.” Let your playlist meet you where you are.
6. Talk to Someone Who’s in the Same Boat
It’s one thing to vent to friends who care, but talking to someone who truly gets it? That’s different.
- Join a Plum group and talk to people who actually know what the TWW feels like.
- Post anonymously if you just need to let it out.
- Even if you don’t comment, just reading other people’s experiences can remind you—you’re not alone in this.
7. Make Something With Your Hands
When your mind won’t stop spinning, let your hands do something.
- Make homemade bread (punching dough is therapeutic)
- Try watercolor painting (it doesn’t have to be good, just fun)
- Plant something (even if it’s just putting basil in a jar of water and watching it grow)
Doing something tangible helps get you out of your head and into the present moment.
8. Let Yourself Be Honest About How You Feel
Some days, you might feel hopeful and excited. Other days, you might feel exhausted and over it. Both are okay.
- You don’t have to be positive all the time.
- You don’t have to act like the wait is no big deal.
- You’re allowed to be hopeful and scared at the same time.
However you’re feeling today, let yourself feel it—without judgment.

Self-Care Looks Different for Everyone
The best self-care during the two-week wait isn’t about avoiding emotions—it’s about finding what makes you feel grounded, comforted, and connected.
Come into Plum, talk to women who get it, and lean on the support that’s here for you. However this cycle turns out, you don’t have to go through it alone.

When to Seek Professional Help: Knowing When It’s Time for Extra Support
The two-week wait (TWW) can bring up a lot—hope, anxiety, excitement, exhaustion. Some days, you might feel totally fine. Other days, the weight of it all might feel unbearable.
If you’re struggling, you’re not weak. Fertility challenges are hard, and no one should have to go through this alone. So how do you know when it’s time to reach out for extra support—whether that’s a fertility specialist, a therapist, or even just a deeper conversation with someone who understands?
Let’s talk about the signs.
1. If You Feel Like You’re Losing Yourself in the Process
Trying to conceive can take over everything—your thoughts, your emotions, even how you see yourself. If you find that your entire life is revolving around the outcome of this cycle, and it’s affecting your daily happiness, it might be time to step back and talk to someone.
- Are you avoiding social situations because you’re afraid of pregnancy talk?
- Do you feel like your emotions are out of your control?
- Has TTC made you feel like a completely different person—one you don’t recognize?
It’s okay if the answer is yes to any of those. A therapist who specializes in fertility can help you navigate this process while still feeling like yourself.
2. If the TWW Feels More Like a Trigger Than a Hopeful Time
The two-week wait is hard on everyone, but if it’s sending you into a spiral of anxiety, fear, or panic, that’s something to pay attention to.
- Do you wake up with a pit in your stomach every morning of the TWW?
- Does the thought of another negative test feel physically unbearable?
- Are you dealing with intense mood swings, hopelessness, or breakdowns every cycle?
If your mental health is significantly impacted each cycle, it’s not something you have to just “push through.” There is support available. You deserve help navigating this in a way that protects your emotional well-being.
3. If Trying to Conceive Has Strained Your Relationship
Fertility struggles can put a huge strain on relationships—whether that’s with a partner, family, or even close friends.
- Do you and your partner struggle to communicate about TTC without arguments or frustration?
- Have you started avoiding certain friends or family members who just don’t get it?
- Do you feel isolated—like no one understands what you’re going through?
A fertility counselor or couples therapist can help you and your partner stay on the same team, rather than letting this process create distance between you. And if you’re feeling alone, finding a supportive community (like Plum!) can remind you that you’re not the only one going through this.
4. If You’ve Been Trying for a While Without Success
If you’ve been trying to conceive for a while and haven’t gotten the answers you need, it might be time to see a fertility specialist.
- Under 35? If you’ve been trying for 12 months with no pregnancy, it’s worth getting checked.
- Over 35? If it’s been 6 months without success, a fertility evaluation is recommended.
- Irregular periods? PCOS? Endometriosis? If you already have known reproductive health concerns, you don’t have to wait—seeking professional support sooner can be helpful.
There are so many potential factors that can impact conception, and sometimes, getting more information is the best way to move forward.
5. If You’re Struggling After Pregnancy Loss
If you’ve experienced a miscarriage, chemical pregnancy, or failed implantation, the two-week wait can bring up a whole different level of emotions.
- Do you feel anxious every time you enter the TWW, afraid of another loss?
- Are you struggling to process your emotions around past pregnancies?
- Do you feel like you “should be over it by now” but still carry the grief?
Grief doesn’t have a timeline. You don’t have to go through it alone. A therapist specializing in pregnancy loss and fertility trauma can help you work through the emotions in a way that feels safe and validating.

Where to Find Support
✔ Plum Community – Connect with women who actually understand what you’re going through. No awkward small talk, no “just relax” comments—just real support from people who get it.
✔ Lina, Plum’s AI Chat – If you need immediate guidance, Lina is here to answer fertility questions in a way that actually makes sense.
✔ Fertility Counselors & Therapists – A mental health professional who specializes in fertility can help you work through the emotional toll of TTC.
✔ Fertility Clinics & Specialists – If it’s time to seek medical support, a reproductive endocrinologist can help you explore the next steps
You Deserve Support—In Whatever Form You Need
There’s no right or wrong way to feel during the two-week wait. Some days you might feel hopeful. Other days, it might all feel like too much. Both are okay.
The important thing? You don’t have to go through this alone. If you need support—whether that’s emotional, medical, or just a space to talk about it—it’s okay to ask for help.
Plum is here for you whenever you need it
You Don’t Have to Go Through This Alone
The two-week wait (TWW) is one of the hardest parts of the fertility journey—because it’s exactly that: a wait. A stretch of time where you’re doing everything you can to stay hopeful, but you’re also preparing yourself for any outcome. It’s emotional, it’s exhausting, and if you’re feeling all over the place, you are not alone.
But here’s the thing—you don’t have to process it alone, either.
Plum is here to be more than just a place to read about fertility. It’s a space where you can connect with women who are walking the same path, share your own experiences, and get real support from people who actually understand.
Join the Two Week Wait Group inside Plum and share:
- What’s the hardest part of the two-week wait for you?
- Do you have any go-to coping strategies that help pass the time?
- What’s one thing you wish you had known before going through the TWW?
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, post in the group. If you need answers, chat with Lina, our AI fertility guide. And if today is just one of those days, know that you have a whole community here to lean on.
We’re in this with you. And whatever happens next, you don’t have to go through it alone.